Dependence
JOANNA
A letter from yesterday:
"Love or Need"
"Many of us struggle with codependency and we're desperate for solutions on how to break this pattern. Needing someone else to make us feel whole is the worst feeling.
My mother and teacher Karen Berg writes,
"In a healthy relationship, you and your partner are interdependent. You are like the sun and the moon. The moon does not need the sun to rise, and the sun doesn't need the moon to set, but they do need each other to make the action happen in the universe."
You will have stronger, longer-lasting relationships if you are separate and self-sufficient in this way. Today, focus on giving yourself the love and approval you crave, so that you do not have to be reliant on others to give you their approval.
You will find that your journey through life with your current or future partner will be so much more beautiful."
TBC
Access: Public
QaR
July 2008
That's so exactly what I've been pondering lately, it's a bit eerie. I'm in the process of a move to Tennessee “with” my boyfriend, and we had a long talk about exactly this right before he went on ahead to prepare the way.
I think also–and if you like, you can read a very long-winded blog on the subject on my page–that when we love ourselves and are content in our own….Selfness…on our own, we manage to find partners who value us more for who we are, because we come together as two separate and whole individuals.
Hi Emily, i read your amazing story, and i don't know if i could take it! Well at least if someone told me in Krakow i am fat or something i could always go out at 2 or 3 am and find a place to drink more beer and get more fat :) if i cared about this person, otherwise nothing would move me (and i eat chocolate covered cranberries as i write, mmm)Yes, it was always a priority for me to be independent , and i think i was “slightly” over the top with that, haha! BUT NOW posting this entry, i was thinking about taking this independence to another Level. Or Space. i heard in one song that life is peaceful in Tennessee, hopefully not too much… :)
Okay, whoa, you're in Krakow!?!!?!?
I definitely missed that one…are you Polish? That would really be quite amazing, and I really had no idea…naprawde, takie jest zycie…dziwne.
I really did appreciate your post. And if you do happen to be Polish, I would love to speak Polish with you! I miss Polish. And I miss Krakow.
Tak, jestem, ale teraz od 8 lat mieszkam w az. Jak to sie stalo ze studiowalas w Polsce? Czy moze odpowiedz znajde w twoim blogu? jak dlugo tam bylas? Ide poszperac na Twojej stronie….